Saturday, September 12, 2009

Working through it

My sister and I have known for many months that our father’s time was short. What neither of us knew was how much it would affect us emotionally when it happened.

As it turns out, we make a good team. She was the stoic one making the difficult decisions in the beginning while I was breaking down. It began to get easier for me, and we worked together on decisions regarding the handling of his remains. Then her emotions kicked in. I took the lead and wrote the obituary.

There is more to be done in the coming days and weeks. We will each do what we can when we can and lean on each other when we can't. There will be no need to apologize for what either of us did or didn’t or could or couldn’t do. In the end, it will all be okay.

At this point, I am emotionally and physically exhausted. I'm unsure whether I will choose to participate in the Patriot Tri tomorrow or not. And that is okay too.

Please know that you've helped tremendously simply by letting me know that you care. Thank you.

26 comments:

  1. Well, I DO care. Sounds like you are doing better today. Day by day. Minute by minute.

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  2. Keeping you in my thoughts and ishing you strength during this time. {hugs}

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  3. I've been thinking a lot about you. What ever you decide for yourself will be OK.

    *HUGS*

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  4. I am so sorry for your loss. Whatever you decide will be the right decision.

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  5. Still thinking of you. Go with what feels right for you... *hugs*

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  6. Thank God for sisters. They are the best friends in the entire universe. Thinking of you.

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  7. I have been away from blogland for too long. I am sorr to hear about your Dad. *hugs*

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  8. Been thinking of you...

    {{{hugs}}}

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  9. Thinking of and praying for you!

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  10. ((hugs)) I am sending thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself.

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  11. It's good you and your sister have one another and that you make such a good combo! That's essential in times such as these.

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  12. How wonderful that you and your sister have each other to lean on.

    Don't worry about the Tri...there are plenty of those...

    More (((((hugs)))))

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  13. Together you will work through it. I am sending hugs and comfort.

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  14. Sister rock, glad you've got each other. Whatever decision you made I'm sure it was right for you. Continued thoughts and prayers with you and your family.

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  15. It's great that you have a sister you can lean on to help you with everything.

    Whatever you decided about the tri was a good decision!

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  16. we know you are a strong one :-)

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  17. Hang in there Lisa. Do what feels right. Sounds like you are surrounded by a lot of love.

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  18. I've arrived late to the game, so not sure what you did this weekend about your race.

    I am sure you did what you needed to do to help yourself and that is the only thing that counts. It's nice when you have a sister to "tag team" with. My sis and I had to do that when our other sister died and my parents couldn't keep it together.

    I hope your family finds peace.

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  19. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 2 years ago. Please email me if you need someone to talk to (or laugh at, I am a mess!)

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  20. Dear Lisa, my condolences on your loss. But you are right, it was his time to go and for that, there is nothing you could've or should've done differently. I think it's great that you and your sis are able to support each other through this difficult time. Things will get easier, trust me.

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  21. I'm just catching up on reading all my favourite blogs and tears are welling up. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sending you and your sister and all your family strong thoughts.

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  22. oh lisa I am just catching up and I am so sorry I haven't been here to lend support and just let you know you are in my prayers. I can't say I know what you are going through, but I know that every loss is hard and you are very lucky to have a sibling to remember the good times with you

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  23. You are lucky to have a sister who can be strong with you.. When the time comes for my parents I will have to be the STRONG one...whether I want to be or not. Grieve and lean on those close to you. You are in my prayers.

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